Hi everyone! It's that time of the year again: a new school semester and year. I thought I'd get these posts out early because this time of year can be tough. Hopefully, these 3 posts from August 7 to August 9 will help out.
Here are 10 tips for heading back to school, family edition.
Tip 1: Know the schedule of classes of the student in your life.
Knowing the student's schedule will help both you and the student out, especially if they're fully online and meeting via Zoom or a similar video call app. You don't have to know every single detail about the student's classes, but knowing the times they have class will help you differentiate between when they have class and when they don't. It may also help to ask what times and days out of the week they plan to work on assignments and study.
Tip 2: If their classes are online, try your best not to disturb them during class.
Yes, it may seem like they're just sitting at their desk and doing nothing. However, this is where Tip 1 comes into play. Knowing their schedule, and when they plan to work on assignments and study, will help you know when you can disturb them and when you shouldn't.
Tip 3: Respect the student's request to not be disturbed for a certain time period, even if they're not in class.
Is a request to not be disturbed during a certain time period, even if they're not in class, a "selfish" request? No. Why? They're in their semester, taking classes on top of any and all assignments for 4+ classes. While it may not seem like much from the outside, a lot of time and energy goes into attending class, working on assignments, studying for tests and quizzes, and anything else related to the class. And, as mentioned, the amount of work is usually multiplied by 4-5 classes, sometimes even 6. Even if they're not in class, and even if they're not working, they may need that time to rest and get their energy back up.
Tip 4: If they have set chores they do around the house, try to work it around their school schedule.
Let's say the student in your life has 2-3 classes each day from Mondays through Thursdays. And let's say they usually take care of the laundry, and over the summer, they'd do the laundry on Mondays. However, now that their semester's begun, doing the laundry on Mondays won't work well with their schedule. Be okay with the fact that they may do it sometime over the weekend, on either Friday, Saturday, or Sunday. It's the same with any other chores they do around the house: be okay if they need to do something at a different time, or on a different day. If it needs to be done on a specific day that doesn't work for the student, it may help to swap chores with them so that they can still help around the house.
Tip 5: Understand that, depending on their workload, there may be days where their stress is amped up.
Stress happens to anyone and everyone. And if they have more work during one part of the semester, they may get stressed about the workload and due dates on top of their normal work and attending classes. You don't have to put up with bad behaviors from them, but you can understand why they may be reacting in a more negative/emotional way.
Tip 6: Constantly remind the student in your life that you're there to support them.
You may not be able to do much, but you can still be there to support and help them. They may know this logically, but it's nice to get the reminder every now and again.
Tip 7: Offer to help them study.
Offering to help them study can reassure the student of how much they actually know related to the course and their upcoming quiz or test. It can also help them realize what they don't know, and what they need to review a bit more.
Tip 8: Offer to read over any papers or essays they have to write.
Similarly with Tip 7, offering to read over any papers or essays the student has to write will really help them to tighten up their paper and make it stronger. As someone who probably doesn't have a lot of familiarity with the topic of their paper, you can point out sentences or ideas that are unclear, and you can point out sentences that are incomplete, since usually things that don't make sense afterward make sense in the moment.
Tip 9: During their midterms and finals week, remind them that you're there to support them.
I know that I mentioned this in Tip 6, but this is especially important during the student's midterms and finals weeks. A lot of stress is swirling around for the student as they prep for their midterms and their finals, so it's always nice for students to get extra encouragement from friends and family.
Tip 10: Once their semester (or year) is over, give them a couple of days to just do nothing.
Whether they decide to actually do nothing or if they decide to do some fun little activities for themselves, give them some time to recoup from their semester or year. Don't start piling on extra chores or activities for them to do the day after they finish up with classes. Let them do their normal chores, but don't start adding on new things for them to do in the summer.